May 16, 2014

The Woman! Who defines her?

“She is a housekeeper who must ascertain the smooth running of a home - hers or otherwise”
“She is a sex object available whether she likes it or not for the man whenever he wants sex”
“She is a weakling and she should be treated as such”
“She is only somebody respectable when she marries”
“Woman is she who can be seen but not heard and must submit at all times even if the situation is dead wrong.”
“She is Figure 8; right and proportionate curves in the right places. Otherwise, she has to check in for re-shaping.”
These are a few definitions the society has given the woman. Even the woman has not accurately defined herself. She allows herself to be defined and she struggles to fit and align herself to these definitions. When the pressure gets too much, some women take drastic decision that have unpalatable consequences. They resign to these definition and pressure fellow women to do so as well.
Woman! Who are you?
Who can rightly define a woman? Who knows her well enough to define her? The woman does not know herself well enough. If she did, she would not be subjected to or submit herself to inaccurate definitions.
Surely, there is one who has accurate definition of the woman! Her creator! One who formed her is the only one that can accurately define her. Only from him should the woman accept her definition.
The woman due to societal and peer pressures tries to be who she is not. She wishes she is where she should not be without understanding she is where her creator wants her to be at that moment. She ought to be content, be happy where she is. She should delight in who she is. But how can she delight in who she is if she does not know who she is?
The society defines her by her marital status. She accepts this definition and go into panic mode when she is not married. In panic mode she makes wrong choices and consoles herself she is at least married. But her creator says “Your marital status does not define you. I define you!”
She is viewed as a sex object and she is enticed with money in exchange for sex or “love”. So she gives away her body carelessly and brainlessly. Of course cases she is vandalized against her will is not ignored. But her creator says, “Her body is the temple I dwell in. I bought it with a price and it should not be vandalized.”
She is not to be heard but her creator says, “My daughters shall prophesy” She will be heard as she is a companion adorned in tenderness and peace; one who is trusted; and one who has a quiet and gentle spirit living in fear of her creator only.
When she can’t take the pressure and the brainless treatment anymore, she rebels. “Enough of these definitions and pressures to be these definitions! It is time I run my life. It is time I prove to the opposite sex, I am strong, I am your equal; I can be independent of you and I can be in control!” But her creator says, “Let me be in the driver’s seat. Relinquish control to me; yield your lifestyle (your day to day way of living) to me and let me be in charge of you. Let me be your Lord, manager, protector, friend and soulmate”
And her creator says, “Drop all definitions given by those who do not know you. Drop all definitions given by those who were not there when I formed you.”
“My princess, let me define you!”
But how does the woman obtain her definition from her creator?
Jesus asked his disciples, “Who do people say I am”. They reeled off names such as John the Baptist, Elijah, Jeremiah. These are who people thought Jesus was. Then Jesus wanted to find out who the disciples thought he was. Then Peter spoke up and give him his accurate definition! The Christ, the Messiah, the Son of the Living God.
Now when Peter gave Jesus his accurate definition. Jesus was very impressed and then he said, “Now I will tell you who you are!” You are Peter, a rock.
Woman, your definition is in knowing God for yourself. You don’t relate with him based on who people say He is. You relate with him based on who you have discovered he is. For in discovering God for yourself, you discover you. You obtain your definition.
The society will define you inaccurately but God will give you a perfect definition that exactly describes who you are!
Walk away from the society’s definitions; walk to and with God; then you shall know who you really are. Make knowing God your singular pursuit and watch him tell you who you are! In your walk with him and as you chat on, ask him, “Who am I?” When you know who you are; be who you are.
Who am I?
I am an African royalty with a cultural influence
I am a star recharged by God’s presence and shines on paths for people follow

These are some of God’s definitions of me.

So you woman reading this; who does God say you are? Please share in the comment section.
And if you are a man reading this, please share your thoughts.

January 28, 2013

What if Jesus yielded to the temptations?

As I read the temptations of Christ, I had a flash. What if Jesus had yielded to any of the temptations, would I have a savior today?

Let’s read the interaction of Jesus and the Devil in Matthew 4: 1-11 (The Message)

1-3 Next Jesus was taken into the wild by the Spirit for the Test. The Devil was ready to give it. Jesus prepared for the Test by fasting forty days and forty nights. That left him, of course, in a state of extreme hunger, which the Devil took advantage of in the first test: "Since you are God's Son, speak the word that will turn these stones into loaves of bread."
4Jesus answered by quoting Deuteronomy: "It takes more than bread to stay alive. It takes a steady stream of words from God's mouth."
5-6For the second test the Devil took him to the Holy City. He sat him on top of the Temple and said, "Since you are God's Son, jump." The Devil goaded him by quoting Psalm 91: "He has placed you in the care of angels. They will catch you so that you won't so much as stub your toe on a stone."
7Jesus countered with another citation from Deuteronomy: "Don't you dare test the Lord your God."
8-9For the third test, the Devil took him to the peak of a huge mountain. He gestured expansively, pointing out all the earth's kingdoms, how glorious they all were. Then he said, "They're yours—lock, stock, and barrel. Just go down on your knees and worship me, and they're yours."
10Jesus' refusal was curt: "Beat it, Satan!" He backed his rebuke with a third quotation from Deuteronomy: "Worship the Lord your God, and only him. Serve him with absolute single-heartedness."
11The Test was over. The Devil left. And in his place, angels! Angels came and took care of Jesus' needs.

I fast and pray, yet I yield to temptations! Though I must confess I have never been on a 40 day fast. But I had undertaken 21 day fast years ago. Do I have to do a 40 day fast before I stop yielding to temptation? I personally don’t think so. However, fasting subdues the flesh and propels the spirit to the forefront of battle (a day, 2, 3, or 21 or 40 days).  But then the Devil started tempting in a faculty Jesus was weak. Jesus was hungry. The devil will always capitalize on our weaknesses.

In such a situation, I think I would have yielded if I was the one because I would have been so exhausted from fasting that all I would be thinking about is food. An opportunity to have food to eat will be welcomed. However, JESUS DID NOT YIELD to the Devil’s suggestion that he turned stone to bread. Rather his response, "It takes more than bread to stay alive. It takes a steady stream of words from God's mouth."

The second test was about showing off and proving a point! I can do all things! Yes we can do all things but we should also be wise. Jesus was certain of who he is and what he can do but he did not need to prove his capabilities to anyone!

The third test had to do with ‘wanting, wanting and wanting more’! It is good to be ambitious and have possessions but I now know that my ambitions should be within the confines of God’s will. When my will aligns with God’s will, his interests become mine. Furthermore, all I have should come from God and not from the devil.

But hang on! The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof. I bet Jesus knew that the devil was offering what was not his!

What if Jesus had yielded to these temptations, would you and I have a savior today?

Do I know the implications of temptations I have yielded to? How will my disobedience and yield to temptations affect others? What have I deprived others from attaining by yielding to temptations?

This year, I should be wise not to yield to temptations. I have a savior today because Christ did not yield to temptations. He did not disregard his God given assignment for what the devil was offering. His assignment consisted of suffering, yet he chose the assignment rather than the ‘glories’ offered by the devil.

I don’t expect an overnight 100% not yielding to temptation. But I shall walk with what I know now and press on. For the truth that people may be affected if I sin, I shall work at not opening my door to the frequent and negatively influential visitor – sin.

Yes I would love to hear from you. Please share with me (by leaving a comment) your strategies on combating sin and ensuring it no longer takes a prominent place in your life.

January 6, 2013

Finding balance in 2013

As 2013 crept in, I was afraid to appraise 2012 because I felt I may come up with more failures and mistakes than successes. I watched months in 2012 pass. It was as if I was in a ride I had lost control of. I could not stop the vehicle and at the same time I could not determine which directions to take. I was just in motion.

My life was filled with distractions and my goals for the year were thrown out of the window. I existed through 2012. I only managed to do the necessary things such as be at work, and get the basic jobs done. My work consists of teaching, research and administration. I managed to teach and administrate. These fall under the category of urgent and important. I was also buried under the urgent but not important things of life. The important but not urgent were left not done.

The important but not urgent are usually what make us who we are. I am a writer but did not do much of writing in 2012. Even this blog was forgotten. I was struggling to find a balance amidst them all. I kept struggling until December when I understood what balance was all about.

Balance can only be achieved by doing the will of the Father. If I am on a journey pursuing my own interests, there is the tendency the ride can get out of control. My priorities will be misplaced. I will get distracted. Back in 2012, I would jump up and go about daily business. But you know what? The day could be better managed, if I first start by inviting God; seeking his will concerning the day. Then I can rest knowing he will help me manage the day effectively. When I don’t invite him, when I focus on the day rather than on him, I struggle through the day. I would be overwhelmed. At the end, I would wallow into self-pity. I would be on the edge, easily offended and having all sorts of stresses day in day out. The days would appear busy and lacking pleasures. I would be mentally, physically and emotionally drained.

I can’t strike a balance in my life when the vital element is missing. I can’t find balance if I am disobedient to God. I can’t find rest if I dishonor God. I won’t be able to get to where I am going, sit down and find rest if I remove God from the equation. God ought to be the beginning and the end. He ought to be the subject of the equation and the solution/answer to the equation. If I seek balance, then I should make doing God’s will my focus. I ought to desire at all times to please God in all I do; honor him in my words and thoughts as well.

Hence, as I seek to do my Father’s will, I will find balance. There will be serenity in all aspects of my life. I rest in God. Resting in God means ability to sleep in the storm. Resting in God also means I trust him to handle all that comes my way. I have faith in him - faith as solid as a rock.

There may be unpleasant things happening around me but I will be unshaken because he who sacrificed his son on the cross for me will not withhold anything good from me. He is the best I can have. So rest I will. In him I shall find balance.

Have you found balance in your life? So please share what it means for you to find balance.

December 16, 2012

The word "Godliness"

What is godliness? Is it decoded from our apparel? Is it decoded from the way we walk? Is it about how long and how much we read the bible? Is it about how many times we attend church in a week?

What do we really understand by “Godliness?”

I am in the process of studying this word “Godliness” One of the popular verses on godliness is “Godliness with contentment is great gain” – I Timothy 6:6.

Godliness starts from the mind and it is a lifestyle

I choose to describe godliness as God-sufficiency which is true sufficiency.

I can not help but to think; if I really understand godliness, then it should be my ultimate focus. In godliness streams true sufficiency, thereby eliminating worries and building trust in God through whom we do exploits.

I need to increase my knowledge of godliness and comments will help. What is the spirit telling you about godliness?  

December 1, 2012

I need to be delivered from me

I need to be delivered from me
I have fed so much
And now I am overweight
All efforts to shed the weight proved abortive

Oh that it be weight only I am struggling with
I am also laden with parasites
They want to suck life out of me
The battle to rid myself of them is on
I get weary of the battle and I want to give up


Weights and parasites!
They consume my time, mind and body
When will I ever be free of them?
I try to strip but give up too early
I try to run but tire easily
Oh! I want to quit

I hear a voice telling me I can make it
I look and I don’t think so
I hear a voice telling me don’t quit
But what I see discourages me
Oh the spiritual fat and parasites

I need to be delivered from me
But how?

I hear a voice say, “focus”
I ask, focus on what?
I hear a voice say, “You mean focus on whom?”
Hmm… I am listening

Focus on him who had gone before you
Study how he did it
He knew where he headed
He never lost sight of it
Despite the challenges he faced
He never lost sight of where he headed

I hear a voice say, “Focus”
Look away from spiritual fat and parasitic sins
Focus on him at all times
Someday, you will see fat and parasites no more

I need to be delivered from me
I hear a voice say, “Focus’

                                                                              Romans 12: 1-2 (MSG)